Help for the Hurting
We grieve deeply because we love deeply. A love as deep as the love a parent has for their child creates a grief that will linger until our own final day.
Your child was important and his/her life had immense value. While time will help you learn to live with the grief and decrease the intensity that you continually feel, the grief will never truly go away. It is normal to grieve, and there is not a timetable for grief.
If you are in need of a friend to talk to, who has been down this path of grief, please contact us.
We offer bereavement support as a ministry to those who have, or will be, experiencing a loss. We understand the heartbreak that accompanies the loss of a baby and the loss of the dreams that you had for that child.
Our bereavement doulas provide care for those experiencing:
Miscarriage Resulting in a D&C
Poor/Fatal Prenatal Diagnosis
Approach to Care
There are no words that are adequate to express the pain that is felt when a parent loses a child. We all have a human nature and our grief can be expressed in a variety of ways. There are many emotions that accompany grief and we hope to encourage you during your hardest times and darkest moments. You don’t have to grieve alone.
What is a Bereavement Doula?
A doula is a woman who is trained to assist another woman during childbirth. A doula can help with comfort techniques and encouragement to the birthing mother.
A bereavement doula provides the same physical support as a birth doula, but she also helps support the family emotionally and spiritually in the area of loss and grief. She is with the family prior to, during, and after the birth of a baby who has been miscarried, stillborn, or is not expected to live. A bereavement doula is there to walk with the family, to help them say hello to their baby, before they say farewell.
If the loss is sudden and unexpected, parents are often unable to think about the memories that they would like to make with their baby. A bereavement doula can assist the parents during these precious moments.
Who would benefit from a Birth and Bereavement Doula?
- Families who receive a poor or fatal prenatal diagnosis
- Families who find out that their baby will be stillborn
What is the cost?
There is no cost for my bereavement services. We only seek to glorify the Lord by helping others in their greatest time of need. Love gifts are welcomed by anyone who wishes to give.
Supporting the Bereaved
Loss is a topic that is often taboo in our society. We believe if we don’t talk about it, or think about it, it cannot happen to us. This has brought us into a culture where those who experience a loss feel very alone.
Sadly, loss is not uncommon. 1 out of every 4 pregnancies end in loss. Chances are, some of the women you come in contact with daily have experienced the loss of a baby.
Friends and Family of Bereaved Parents
If you are a family member or friend of someone who has experienced the loss of a child, it is hard to know what to do or say. It is often easier to simply avoid the bereaved parents. Let me encourage you, that ignoring the parents will not make their pain go away, and it will hurt them more. Parents who have lost a child do not need to also lose relationships with those they care about.
What to Say:
I am sorry.
What did you name your baby?
I would love to hear more about your baby.
Your baby was important.
Your baby had value.
I am here to listen.
What are you feeling?
Can I bring you a meal?
I am here for you.
Things to Avoid Saying:
Are you still grieving?
You should be over this by now.
People lose babies every day, it isn’t a big deal.
Your baby is in a better place.
You are better off.
You can always have another baby.
I know how you feel, I had a pet that died
We all need a helping hand sometimes. We hope this list of resources will point you to the help you are looking for. If you have any questions, or if this list doesn’t contain the information you are looking for, please contact us for further assistance.
These books are all great resources for those who are grieving or for those who are supporting the bereaved. Click the below to read the description and purchase.
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Proudly Serving the South Carolina Upstate
We serve in the following Upstate locations in SC: Greenville Memorial Hospital, Greenville Midwifery, Saint Francis Hospital (Greenville), Patewood Hospital (Greenville), Laurens Memorial Hospital, Greer Memorial Hospital, AnMed Health (Anderson), Easley Baptist Medical Hospital, Spartanburg Regional Hospital, Carolina Waterbirth (Simpsonville), and Labors of Love Birth Center (Spartanburg). We will also serve at midwife attended home births. If your birth location is not listed, please contact us for availability.
Childbirth classes are offered as group classes and private classes. We currently offer the Evidence Based Birth Childbirth Class and the Spinning Babies ® Parent’s Class at various locations in the Upstate.